This past week, I totally stepped over one of my own boundariesâand no one even asked me to. I was completely fried, craving rest, but the second I heard a friend was having a tough time (without them even asking for help), I snapped into full-on âmy Sun is in Cancerâ mode. I abandoned myself to show up for them.
Yep, even though I wasnât invited to help, I rushed in anyway. Sound familiar?
As Venus moves into Cancer this week, itâs an excellent time to look at our boundariesâthe ones we cross ourselves.Â
I’m Sheridan, your Astro Life Coach, and I guide women who feel stuck, overwhelmed and pushed to the brink by menopause to clean out the mental junk that holds you back from making real-life change, by harnessing the power of astrology and coaching to create real, aligned transformation.
Venus in Cancer: The Cosmic Invitation to Check Your Boundaries
Venus, our divine feminine planet, enters the sign of nurturing, emotionally-attuned Cancer on Wednesday. Cancer energyâlike many of the cardinal and water signsâloves to give. These signs serve, help, and pour into others, sometimes without realizing they’ve emptied themselves in the process.
Hereâs the truth about boundaries:
They’re not just about what others do to us. Theyâre about what we allow, and even more importantly, what we do to ourselves.
When I first started studying life coaching, this concept hit me like a lightning bolt:
If someone is crossing my boundaries, Iâm the one letting them. I’m the one crossing them myself.
That story I opened with? Textbook example. No one asked for help. I leapt in because Iâm wired to nurture (hello, Cancer stellium), and Jupiter is currently lighting up that part of my chart, making all of this… BIG. (Pro tip: Jupiter doesnât always make things betterâit makes them bigger.)
Boundary Violations Come With Receipts
By overriding my own need for rest, I ended up feeling resentful, frustrated, and snippyâtoward someone who didnât even ask me to show up for them. That emotional aftermath? Thatâs the check-engine light. It’s our soul saying: âHey, somethingâs not right under the hood.â
And this is the lesson:
When we feel irritation, resentment, or exhaustion, itâs not someone else doing something to us. Itâs often us abandoning ourselves.
Layered Astrology This Week: Venus in Cancer + Chiron Retrograde + Mercury Cazimi
The cosmos is giving us all the signs to slow down and tune in.
- Venus enters Cancer â nurturing energy meets the need for emotional self-awareness
- Chiron goes retrograde â our deepest wounds can surface, especially around âover-givingâ as a survival tactic
- Mercury meets the Sun (cazimi) â divine downloads and clarity about what we really need in terms of self-care and soul connection
Many of us learned early on that taking care of others was the way to stay safe. Maybe you learned not to rock the boat. Maybe you found comfort in controlling chaos around you by always being âthe helper.â But now? Thatâs not serving you anymore. Itâs draining you.
The Invitation This Week: Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No
So hereâs the big question:
Where are you crossing your own boundaries?
Are you saying yes when you really want to say NO?
Are you ignoring your bodyâs cries for rest just to be there for everyone else?
This week is a cosmic invitation to STOP. To put your hand on your heart and ask:
What do I need?
And thenâactually honor the answer.
Even one small act of self-care can shift everything.
Need Help Finding (and Holding) Your Boundaries?
If boundaries are a challenge for youâespecially if you’re healing from traumaâyouâre not alone. And you donât have to figure it out solo. I offer free AstroLife Coaching calls to help you understand whatâs holding you back and how to move through it using your astrology chart as a guide.
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Next week, weâll explore the Aquarius Full Moon and Mars entering Libraâa perfect follow-up as we shift focus from our boundaries to our relationships.
⨠With love,
Sheridan Semple
AstroLife Coach
