I Met Two Italian Twins on a Hike—and What They Asked Me Changed Everything
Last week, I was out hiking when I met two gorgeous Italian twins. They were nervous about bears, so we started walking together, chatting as we went. Naturally, the conversation turned to what I do. I told them I’m an astrologer and an astrology life coach.
Then one of them asked me a question no one had ever asked before:
“Do you use your life coaching on yourself?”
That stopped me in my tracks.
The answer, of course, is yes. Every single tool I share with the women I work with is something I’ve used myself, many times over. Everything you hear from me in these Moon Mondays videos and blogs comes directly from my own journey. I would never guide someone with a tool I hadn’t tested in my own life first.
I am, just like you, a work in progress. Astrology gives us the map, but life coaching helps us actually live our charts. Astrology isn’t about the destination—it’s about the journey. We stumble, we fall, and then we realign with our soul path. That’s how growth and transformation happen.
And right now, we are in the middle of one of the most powerful times for growth: the Eclipse Portal.
The Invitation of the Eclipse Portal
The eclipse season opened yesterday and lasts until the Virgo New Moon Solar Eclipse at the equinox. This two-week window is the perfect time for shadow work—the most important healing work we can do.
Carl Jung coined the term shadow to describe the parts of ourselves we hide, suppress, or feel ashamed of: anger, grief, fear, sadness. As children, we’re told these emotions are “bad,” so we push them down, calving off pieces of ourselves like an iceberg. But here’s the truth: all emotions are human. None of them are bad.
When we deny our emotions instead of letting them flow, they become toxic. Stuffed-down anger, for example, turns into self-sabotage and destructive behaviors. That’s why we see athletes or politicians rise to success, only to implode in scandal or destruction. It’s the shadow erupting from suppression.
We do this too—getting the promotion and then blowing it, meeting our dream partner and sabotaging the relationship. It’s all because we’re not living in our wholeness.
How to Work With the Shadow
This eclipse season is your invitation to shine light on your shadow instead of letting it erupt unconsciously.
It doesn’t have to be complicated. Here’s how to begin:
- Notice what’s coming up. When you’re triggered, pause instead of pushing it down.
- Feel it. Let yourself experience the emotion fully. Don’t shove it away.
- Move the energy. Journal, cry, dance, scream, paint, or hit a heavy bag—whatever helps the energy release.
- Trace it back. Ask yourself: Where did I first feel this? What made me want to hide this part of myself? Often, it goes back to childhood moments of shame or rejection.
- Offer compassion. Treat yourself the way you would comfort a child. Love the part of you that was hurt.
When you do this, the shadow stops controlling you. It no longer needs to explode or sabotage. Instead, it becomes integrated—and you step into your wholeness.
My Own Eclipse Practice
Recently, I caught myself trying to shove my anxiety down while traveling. Big shifts are happening in my life, and I felt scared of losing control. My old pattern was to push those feelings away, but instead, I let myself sit with them. I realized the fear belonged to a younger version of me. Offering that part love and compassion shifted the energy instantly.
This is shadow work in real time. Small, baby steps like this through the eclipse portal create healing and transformation. They blossom into your full, authentic self.
I’m Sheridan, your astrology life coach. I help women exhausted from doing “all the things” break free of self-sabotage and step into their soul’s true path.
Equinox Ceremony
On September 22nd, I’m teaching a free Equinox class and ceremony. We’ll dive deeper into shadow and light at this sacred balance point of the year. It’s an opportunity to integrate your shadow, reclaim your wholeness, and step forward into your authentic life.
✨ Register here for the free Equinox class + ceremony.
As you walk through this eclipse portal, remember: your greatest light shines through your shadow. Shadow work isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about finally being all of yourself.
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✨ With love,
Sheridan
Astrology Life Coach
