How the Libra New Moon Taught Me to Hold Boundaries—With Myself
For years, I’ve been watching more TV than I really want to. Just streaming, zoning out—especially at the end of a long day. And here’s the thing: I love to read. As a writer, I could even argue that I need to read more. But instead, I find myself plopping down with my iPad and losing an entire evening to shows I don’t even care about.
It’s been driving me crazy for years. And yet—have I changed it? Not really. Not with any consistency.
So, I’m outing myself today because this is a major boundary issue.
The Libra New Moon is the perfect time to talk about this because Libra’s shadow side is being boundary-less—always trying to keep the peace, to make sure everyone else is okay. Libra wants harmony so deeply that it will abandon itself in the process. But when Libra does that, it gets smaller and smaller, dimmer and dimmer.
Libra’s real lesson is to keep the peace without losing itself. To stand firm in its own center—holding boundaries with grace—while still staying connected to others.
To do that, Libra can learn from its opposite sign, Aries (they’re two ends of one energy). Aries is becoming the master of self: confident, independent, and sure of its needs. But Aries can swing too far—becoming overboundaried and shutting people out.
True peace and connection—the kind both Aries and Libra crave—come from finding the balance between harmony and self-worth.
Why Boundaries Feel So Hard (Especially for Women)
Boundaries can be especially tricky for us women because we’re conditioned to be kind, gentle, accommodating—to put others first. That conditioning confuses us and makes us think boundaries are harsh, mean, or selfish.
But in truth, they’re none of those things.
Boundaries are simply what’s okay for you and what’s not. What works for you and what doesn’t.
You don’t even have to announce them to anyone—they’re between you and you.
If someone is draining your energy, you can’t make them stop—but you can stop giving them access to it.
If someone is being a jerk, you can’t change them—but you can choose not to engage.
Boundaries are your responsibility—no one else’s.
And yes, that’s a lot easier said than done. But it’s still true.
How I Coached Myself Through My “Too Much TV” Habit
So, I had a talk with myself. I thought, “Okay Sheridan, you’re a life coach. How would you coach yourself through this maddening TV habit?”
And I remembered my favorite tool: micro-actions.
Micro-actions are my antidote to overwhelm. And I realized I’d never applied them to this particular problem. I’d been trying to make these huge, dramatic declarations:
“I’ll never watch TV again!”
“I’ll only read books from now on!”
And of course, that never works. It’s too extreme, too all-or-nothing.
So instead, I set a tiny, doable goal:
📺 Once a week, I’d allow myself to watch one hour of TV—with a timer, so I can’t cheat—then switch to reading.
That’s it.
And guess what? By lowering the pressure, I actually created success.
I’ve done it every day this week—and I’ve read more than I have in years
That’s the beauty of boundaries. They aren’t restrictive—they’re supportive. They create structure so we can thrive. Boundaries are how we meet our own needs, with intention and care, to build the lives we actually want to live.
Building a Life That Honors You
If you’re ready to explore your own boundaries and want some guidance, I’d love to help. In AstroLife Coaching, we uncover what’s working, what’s not, and how to build the structures that support real change.
If you’re curious about working with me one-on-one, I offer free introductory coaching sessions to see if we’re a good fit.
Or, if you crave the support of a community, come join my Moon Sisters Circle—we meet twice a month to grow, share, and transform together.
All the details are here on my website, in the menu above.
Thanks so much for being here and doing this sacred work with me.
Wishing you a beautiful Libra New Moon and an empowered, sacred, feminine week.
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✨ With love,
Sheridan
Astrology Life Coach
